Alright, so, yes, I’m a wedding planner. And I don’t want a wedding. (This totally sounds like I’m in some weird anti-wedding club, but I’m not!)
WHAT?!? (You exclaim in frustration and shock).
Don’t get me wrong. I LOVE WEDDINGS. However, this is not about a wedding. This is about a MARRIAGE. These two things are completely different concepts, and this is probably one of the factors that lead to separation and divorce. 50% of marriages end in divorce! Isn’t that a shocking statistic?! What happened to the whole institution of marriage?! If communication fails, the marriage fails.
BTW, as an added note, I’m SO PRO for GAY-MARRIAGE.
So let’s get down to the nitty-gritty of why I don’t want a wedding:
- This is a partnership between two people and both have to be happy with the decision. No resentment or straining the relationship because of financial or family obligations for one day.
- The amount of money being spent can go towards paying my student loan debt and a down payment for a house.
- We love our family and friends and would rather spend quality time in a more intimate setting with them.
- We (and I mean mostly me) would rather not plan this event for a year *trying* to make everyone happy and shedding countless blood, sweat, and tears and being constantly frustrated. (But that’s why wedding planners come in handy!)
- At the end of the day, and probably a few years down the road… I won’t remember what flowers I had, the colour of my napkins and linens, centerpieces, shoes, etc. probably because I have a bad memory, but also because those things will not bring happiness in my marriage.
Please do not take my reasons as reasons why YOU shouldn’t have a wedding. If you’re in a better/strong financial position to throw a small gathering to a big bash, then definitely go for it! If you can’t live without your white bridal Louboutins, then go buy them.
However, these are personal reasons for me and my fiance. We are really simple people who have loved each other for 12 years and will continue to love each other for the rest of our lives.
